How can I tell my partner that I used to watch porn?

Hi,

You don’t mention how old you both are, or how far you’ve come in your relationship, but if you want to build a good, stable relationship then it’s important to be open and honest with each other. By sharing this you show your partner that you want to be trusted. Your partner might be disappointed, but he or she will hopefully also appreciate your openness and honesty.

It’s a good idea to talk about this when both of you have plenty of time and when you’re not tired. Just say it like it is, without going into details. One way you could start is like this: ‘Dear ..., I need to talk with you about something from my past which might disappoint you. I know it was wrong of me and it hurts you, and I wish that I hadn’t done it. I want you to know that ...’ and so on.

It might help him or her if you tell them about how you see it now, and ask for forgiveness. Give your partner some time to absorb and process the information, and be prepared for negative reactions. Don’t defend yourself, just receive their feelings and stay calm. When you confess things and bring them into the light, they also lose some of their power.

Best wishes, boyandgirl.info