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Is he in love with me?
Hi!
I think there might be a boy in my class who’s in love with me. I’m not sure if he is, and that’s why I’m writing to you. Do you think he likes me? I’ve noticed that he sits and stares at my eyes when I sit in a quiet corner of the class. It makes me feel really uncomfortable so I turn away whenever I sense that he’s staring at me. If I wait five minutes and then turn round to see if he’s still staring, then he IS still staring at me! But when we have a break he ignores me totally. If he does see me during the break, he just stares at the ground and he avoids looking at me when he and his friends are walking past me and my friends.
He didn’t ignore me before, but he’s suddenly started to avoid staring at me or approaching me at breaktime. He used to often come over to me and tease me. He used to come over and ask if me and my friends wanted to fight him. I got so annoyed at him and asked him to hit me once. All he did was to brush past me and then I really got mad and pushed him away and started to hit him, but he didn’t do anything, he just laughed and ran away.
One time he and his friends came over and suddenly asked me if I wanted a massage, and when I said NO, he asked my friends if they wanted a massage, and of course they also said NO. I’m not sure if he likes me or not, as he gives me mixed signals. And sometimes when he comes over to me to talk, he stands very near me and pokes me in the back with his hand, I find that quite uncomfortable. It feels as if he always has to touch my arm or my back every time he comes over to me. Recently he’s stopped doing that, but I still see that he sits in that quiet corner of the class and stares at me with his eyes wide open, when I laugh or talk loudly.
The way he stares at me makes me feel like an alien. He stares at me as if I had something on my face, which of course isn’t true. What do you think? Do you think this boy likes me, or are boys just like that?
Hi,
It’s not so easy for us to say if this boy likes you, but according to what you tell us, it seems like maybe he does. You don’t mention how this boy normally behaves towards other people and to his friends. When someone is in love, hormones travel around the body and give a natural ‘high’ feeling. Physical reactions occur in the body and there is a sense of always being happy. People in love often daydream and think a lot about the person they are in love with, and this reaction in the brain gets stronger the more in love they are. The body’s senses get more sensitive when the person you are in love with is nearby, your eyes become more intense and touch feels almost electric. You can feel a need to see, touch or talk to the person you are in love with, and you can often do strange things to meet that need. Then you can just sit and stare, or poke, or brush past, anything to get contact, but at the same time you might also do the opposite sometimes to hide the fact that you are in love.
Being in love comes and goes without us deciding we want to feel that way, but in the end it goes away. This boy will also experience the same, if he is in love with you. Try to be yourself, be nice and spend time with your friend. If he does something that makes you feel uncomfortable, just politely tell him that. He might not realise that he is staring so openly at you, as this can happen automatically when we are lost in our own thoughts. Try not to bother so much about it, try focussing on something else or going somewhere else.
You can read more about this here: A boy likes my friend.
Best wishes,
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