My erection.. is it upsetting her?

Hi boy 20!

Thanks for the question. You ask if it might be a good idea to talk with your girlfriend about the erection you get as a result of being close up to her. From the way you put it, we guess you think it’s a bit difficult to deal with when it happens and that you also do not know what your girlfriend thinks of it, -if she even notices.

What we want to say first that it is perfectly normal to experience what you do when you're near her. Boys are made up in a way that gets them to so react quickly to touch and intimacy. It brings on positive emotions, and bodily responses, which may also result in an erection. In other words your reaction to being close up to her is perfectly common and natural.

In our opinion, it's very good if you and your girlfriend can talk about it, and by all means tell her how you feel and what you are experiencing in various situations. If your girlfriend understands these things, it will undoubtedly contribute to you both understanding of each other better, and help you avoid getting into difficult or embarrassing situations.

At the same time, we'd like to say that it's important for you as boy- and girlfriend to know where the limits to intimacy between you go, whether you're alone together or not. Talking about this is a way to seek to show each other respect. Both of you have a responsibility to come to agreement the boundaries of intimacy about stay within them. It is also important not to violate any limits to physical intimacy your girlfriend, -or you-, expresses. That way you will build trust and closeness between you. It's also very sensible to spend time before what may develop into marriage, to train yourselves to talk about the rather demanding sides to a love-relationship.

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Sincerely, 

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