Is it OK to touch her boobs?

Hi, and thanks for your question!

When you are fifteen and in love there are lots of feelings in your body and it is quite normal that you think about and want to have sex. It’s easy to get focussed on these physical feelings and longings in relation to your girlfriend, not only when you are together but also when you think about her or talk to her on the phone. This can take the focus away from what you should really spend time on as boyfriend/girlfriend: getting to know each other better as people. When you are close to each other physically and you French kiss, you get the same feeling of love and can think that you love each other. Lust feels like strong love, but it is mostly about a physical desire that creates a longing for satisfaction. These feelings are God-given and create a wonderful unity in marriage, which is built on a binding love.

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That is why we recommend that you use the time together to explore each other’s world and get to know each other well, rather than sending photos and texts which create lust, desire and frustration. Sending intimate photos or seeing each other naked will make it more difficult to wait until marriage to have sex, because you will increase the focus on your body and sex. It is also important to think carefully about what you send in terms of naked photos, intimate texts and so on: if these get into the hands of the wrong person the consequences can be very serious.

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Our sex drive can give us a positive, tingling feeling when we’re touched, and this is extra strong when we are in love and if our erogenous zones are touched. The breasts are one area which are very sensitive to touch and this can lead to lots of sexual feelings for both people. If you want to wait till marriage to have sex, then it is important to set the limits so strictly that you avoid nakedness and avoid touching or feeling those parts of the body which are normally covered by a bra and underwear, and avoid kissing so intimately that you get consumed by lust and lose control.

God created sex as something to bind together two people who are married to each other and have promised to spend the rest of their lives with each other in marriage. So the goal of sex is not just enjoyment, but closeness, exclusivity and togetherness. That is why it’s important for God to protect us from having sex with someone who we haven’t committed ourselves to, as it will harm us.

When you’re young and in love, then you want to be together as much as possible, so it’s not a great feeling to live so far from each other. The purpose of this time is to get to know each other as well as possible, so that you find out if you share the same values, attitudes and interests, and if you are a good fit for a permanent relationship. You can still find this out to some extent even if you live far from each other.

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It‘s smart to talk about how you want to be as boyfriend/girlfriend, what sort of focus you want to have, and what sort of boundaries you will have. By respecting and helping each other you will be able to keep to the boundaries you have chosen. You won’t regret this, whether or not your relationship lasts.

You can also read: Where should my boyfriend and I set the boundaries / What are healthy boundaries in a relationship? / Ten Good Reasons to Wait With Sex / God Says ‘YES!’ to Sex

Best wishes, boyandgirl.info