Hi, and thanks for your question!
You write that you like both girls and guys, and you wonder how you can be sure if you are bisexual or not.
The way we see it is that there are a lot of things that are uncertain and not really decided on when a person is fourteen or fifteen. Someone of that age can feel very secure in some situations, but in other settings they can feel quite timid and small.
When it comes to an important question like sexual orientation, we think that it’s smart to think that the teenage years are a period when sexuality grows and develops until it reaches maturity several years later. That is why it is important not to make big decisions too early.
We recommend you not to have sex before you are ready to take responsibility for yourself and the person you have sex with, and not before you are married. We also recommend you not to watch or use porn. This is because porn is very damaging to our sexuality. As human beings, we are made to react when we see nakedness and sex acts, so watching porn will awaken sexual feelings in us, regardless whether it is a men or a women having sex with each other. So watching two women having sex with each other can be arousing even if you are not a lesbian. Be aware that pornography will affect your thoughts and fantasies and can affect the way in which your thoughts and feelings develop.
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You asked if it says somewhere in the Bible about women having sex with women. The Bible does have something to say about that, both about men having sex with men, and women having sex with women. The Bible speaks very honestly about people who lived according to God’s will, and those who lived against God’s will. The Bible talks a lot about sexual intercourse, and right from the very first chapter of the Bible we can read about how God created people in His image (Genesis 1:27), and that he created them as man and woman for a special purpose.
Both men and women were necessary for the image of God to be complete, as God is neither man nor woman, but He has within Himself all the good characteristics of masculinity and femininity which men and women have. God created sex to be the glue that united man and woman in marriage so that together they could show more of God’s image than they could alone. And together a man and a woman have the God-given ability to create new life. All sexual activity outside the framework of marriage between one man and one woman is therefore outside of God’s plan and will.
You say that your parents are Christians and that you think your dad is against homosexuals. You don’t mention anything about the type of relationship you have with your parents. A lot of people have opinions about homosexuality, but they don’t always realise that the way they express themselves about it can hurt their children if their children have homosexual feelings and thoughts. Most parents want their children to be open and to talk about anything they are wondering about in terms of sexuality and relationships. But then sometimes it can be very difficult to talk about things like that with your parents.
We don’t know if you can count on your parents understanding you if you tell them about these feelings and thoughts, but it might be an idea to take a chance and try to talk with them or another adult who you trust?
It isn’t easy to be fourteen or fifteen and have such big questions. We recommend that you think that you are developing during puberty. There are lots of things that have not reached maturity in your body both in terms of your sexuality but also who you really are. It’s important not to make such big decisions in these years that you end up different from who God has created you to be!
Try to focus more on friendships, do activities you enjoy, and watch series and films that focus on things apart from sex. Your sexual orientation will be obvious later on. You are a girl who God loves very much and you are important.
We think it would be good for you to find an adult you can talk to about your thoughts and feelings. We wish you all the best in life, and we hope our answer can help you to think a slightly different way.
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