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Wait for marriage to have sex
I have decided to wait till marriage before I have sex, but I’m wondering about things like lying together on the same bed, kissing and cuddling – what are the limits? I know that it depends on my comfort zone, but with a Biblical perspective?
Hi!
It’s great to hear that you’ve decided to wait until marriage before you have sex. We believe that is a good choice, as the Bible says.
In terms of where the boundaries lie, we don’t have a correct answer for that, but we will give you some advice that we hope will be helpful. Lying in the same bed and kissing and cuddling is not sin in itself. However, it can very quickly lead to more.
These things are on the borders of being sexual, and they awaken very strong feelings in us. You just want to be nearer the other person, and that desire will grow stronger as long as you are together. It can be very hard to stop.
This is why we think it is better to set secure boundaries before you go too far. One tip can be to avoid touching the ‘swimsuit area’, and restrict kissing and cuddling only to when you are standing or sitting.
You can read more about boundaries for sex and what the Bible says about them here:
Boundaries for sex
To set boundaries in a romantic relationship
Set Your Own Boundaries
Where should I set my boundaries?
You can read the following articles to help you be motivated to keep to the boundaries:
Why Shouldn’t You Have Sex Before You’re Married?
The invisible reality of sex
Marrying Someone Who Has Had Sex
Best wishes,
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