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It’s difficult to talk to girls

Hello. I often find it difficult to generally talk or flirt with girls. Are there any good tips to make this less difficult?

Dear friend,

It can often be difficult to talk to girls, because the fear of making a fool of yourself, of not coming up with something to say, or of not being liked, disturbs the mind. It might be a good idea to think that there really isn't that much of a difference between boys and girls when it comes to friendship. Nevertheless, boys often become friends while doing an activity together, while girls like to talk together. It is still possible to invite the girls to an activity, such as playing football, cannonball, cards, etc. 

Doing things together makes it easier to get to know each other in a natural and relaxed way, and most girls appreciate being invited by the boys and doing things with them. Girls also like guys whom they can have serious conversations with and who are helpful. Be polite and kind to them. 

The best thing you can do is to be yourself as much as possible, naturally and authentically. It is easiest to be natural and relaxed if you think of girls as friends and that you are going to build friendships, and not focus on flirting, dating and sexual approaches. 

Read: What differences are there between boy friendship and girl friendship?

Start by smiling, making eye contact, saying hello and being pleasant and talking together about school stuff, activities, hobbies and interests. When you talk to girls, try to listen, ask questions and be interested in what they are talking about.

Read: Limits of flirting

It can often be hard to know the line between being nice and flirting. Flirting is all about getting someone to notice you. Often friendly behavior can be perceived as flirting. It is therefore important to be respectful and careful in the way you interact with each other, so that you do not give false hopes to anyone.

A good rule might be to treat the girls as if they were your sisters, be nice, attentive and have good friendships without focusing on sexual approaches.

Additional reading:
How can I get good female friends?
It’s hard to know what to say

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